The last several months, I have read and seen first hand people just blatantly skirting the rules, lying about it, if not other inappropriate things at the same time, and then having their “inner circle” of defenders, apologists, and plain cronies support the BS. The outward examples in the press have been Hillary Clinton, Tom Brady, and read the below link what happened in Atlanta with the cheating scandal re test scores and how teachers and administrators got paid for it:
Read this follow up I read this morning:
in there this, “Recently, Baxter cut the prison sentences for Cotman, Davis-Williams, and Pitts. They won’t have to spend 7 years in prison after all, only 3 years. But they will also have to pay a $10,000 fine and perform 2000 hours of community service. Baxter said that he was not comfortable with the harsher sentences he initially doled out and so he wanted to “modify the sentence so I can live with it.”
I approved of the harsher sentences. As the ring leaders of this criminal conspiracy, these three deserved stiff punishment. They were playing with children’s lives. In fact, they are guilty of theft. They stole something precious from these kids, who are also African-American: Their futures.”
Exactly, the crimes weren’t just pure benefit for the criminals, and yes, the operative word here for these teachers and school administrators is “Criminals”, but, will impact on these kids who were told they were smarter than they really were, at least by the testing assessments.
The reason why I am writing this post this morning though is hearing a story on the local news about an addict being given yet another chance to be in recovery after yet another incident of traumatizing family, and I just have to ask, why does society think and feel we owe it to entrenched addicts they deserve chance after chance to get into recovery and accept it as it is: abstinence, and there is no “controlled use” model, or just reflexive dismissal that relapse is part of the process and that should be forgiven every time it happens?
A few months ago, I saw a patient at one of my Locum assignment stops, and this person came in demanding Xanax, then was dismissive of their addiction history the person claimed was in recovery. I refused to write for it, offering hydroxyzine HCl as an alternative as a start, and then, the fun began.
First the patient’s therapist got in my face and asked me why I was being insensitive to the patient’s needs, that benzos, much less Xanax, is not a big deal to provide to an addict. I gave up after 5 minutes of discussion and providing a link on the Net to the pratfalls of benzos with addiction, but did not change my position.
Then, the patient’s mother came in with the patient on the next follow up, and she laid into me I had to “not be so cruel and rigid” and give the patient what was needed. Again, I told the patient and mother in tow that I would not agree to write for a controlled substance, at least not at the beginning of care I am involved with, and risk relapse or abuse of the Rx. They stormed out and went to the clinic director, who at least had some sense to defer it back to me as the administrator was not a treating provider.
And then, the truth has it’s painful and yet appropriate way of coming out. First, by happenstance, I find a note NOT on the chart that the patient was actively in a Methadone Clinic, and the patient never told me this on either visit, but amazingly it was also mentioned deep in the chart, but not in the sections I expected to read it. Then, I find out the patient was getting benzos from another provider prior to me, but then was discharged from that provider’s care for altering a Rx, for Xanax, how fascinating.
The final “then” was the patient’s sister called me one day to let me know she found out the patient was trying to get Xanax and the mother tried to ask the sister, who was the only one in the family setting limits with this patient, to help get me to agree to write for a benzo. Oh, the patient was willing to agree to not ask for Xanax, but now for Valium or Klonopin, gee, what a nice change of pace!
The sister finished the discussion with several interesting details, how the patient faked a drug screen a couple of months earlier, how mom was the textbook enabler for not only the patient and this person’s behaviors, but other family members with addiction issues, and ends with this beauty: “you need to know, I am not involved with my family anymore because they think simply being family trumps the rights and wrongs that are part of society, including zero tolerance for abuse.” Wow, that hit home for me!
I just don’t get the enabling and codependence by so many in society these days. It’s ok if you represent the right political party, or play for the right team, or have the right intention at first to help the public, but when the outcomes are just outwardly wrong, why does that trump common sense and principle?
But, on a global scale, why are people ok with being on the receiving end of cheating and lying? A premise or agenda built on a lie or cheat will not lead to a healthy and responsible outcome until proven otherwise, and even then, retrospection of how it started will surely lead to some guilt and resentment, hmm?
Just remember, we are seeing more and more of this at least pervasively here in America, and the defenders and apologists seem to be winning in larger numbers day in and out.
I leave you with these two quotes, of many I could add here, just to educate and remind you, there is no defense for “I was just trying to help” when all one was doing was being complicit and ignorant at the very least!
Yeah, good point at the end of the second one, “It’s always about them.” Why lying is part of the criteria of Antisocial Personality Disorder. It is beyond reflexive sometimes, you agree?